October 2nd, 2008

Black eye

We'll Meet Again, Don't Know Where, Don't Know When

I just found out that Jeff Hayward died. He was known as "ElkoCowboy" on recon and other web sites. I don't know the details yet, but his death was sudden and painless - he died sitting next to his computer.



I saw Jeff Friday night. I was driving from Denver to San Jose, and figured out that Elko, Nevada was halfway there. Jeff opened up his house to me and let me stay the night. After 12 hours of driving, his hot tub felt pretty good! But what I enjoyed was some time later when we snuggled and kissed and he put me in my leather sleepsack for a while.

I was joking with him while I was tied down. I noted that if he had a heart attack while I was mummified, I would spend a whole more time in Elko than I planned. He laughed and said he was in perfect health. He talked about how much he loved his partner Mark, and liked living in the country.  He seemed in good spirits, and I am at a loss to explain what happened.

What an amazing man. I am honored to have met him - even if it was just that one night. He loved smoking pipes, and putting boys in bondage. I love his favorite youtube videos (http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=elkocowboy) where you can see the fun and joy that reminds me why I love leather sex.

I left Denver, Colorado last week, and a few friends called me up wanting to get together. They sweetly bemoaned the fact that I was leaving so soon... they thought that we would have more opportunities together. They put off calling me for days, and then weeks, and then there was no time left. So, I guess with this post, I would implore the reader to do something this week that you've put off. Call that friend you haven't seen in a while, set up a date with the hot man you barely know, or go do something you've always wanted to do.

The leather world has lots and lots of wonderful people it. But the problem is that it now has one less, and it is a great loss.
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