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These are a few of my favorite things

Man, I love S&M sex…

I’m not sure exactly what I like about it… I try think not to think too hard. I dislike my friends that try to play “Junior Freud” in order to psychoanalyze certain fetishes. “Ah,” they say, “you had a distant father and an overbearing mother and that’s why you like to be beaten.” Of course, if you had a distant *mother* and an overbearing *father*, they’d use that as evidence as well. All your sexual likes and dislikes can be neatly boiled down to a specific instance when you were in third grade. So, no explanation here – I just do what I do.

I like the power exchange part of S&M, but I’m not sure I like that phrase. It makes it sounds as if the guys are switching back and forth – exchanging power the way some guys exchange semen. Instead, I like to take off all my clothes, and do whatever the Bad Man tells me to do. It’s pretty simple, just follow orders, come up with some clever ideas when the time is right, and have fun. It’s a recipe for an enjoyable few hours (or an entire night, or a weekend, or…)

I like being a top sometimes, too. But often it’s in order to be a “service top”. Basically, I like making a guy’s fantasy happen. Does he want to be wrapped in saran for three hours? That could be fun. An intense mindfuck session that culminates in a faked castration scene? Not my thing, but I’d do it. I like the way guys fit together in the S&M scene like jigsaw puzzle pieces. A guy wants to be spanked, I’m in the mood to spank him, everything works out. There’s no awkward fumbling and talking needed. I’m kind of sick of vanilla sex – the rolling around and groping, never sure how far my partner wants to go, not sure if he’s having a good time or if he will jack off later unfulfilled.

That’s not to say that BDSM is boring for me. Instead, I love the edge. I love seeing how far a boy will go, where his limits are. C’mon, if you put “pig” in yer gay profile, I wanna see if you have the balls to back that up. Because I have a feeling it means something a little different to me that it does for you. Even though I’m a Nice Top, I’ve got a real sadistic streak inside me. If a sub tells me something mild that he doesn’t like (for example, being tickled, or wearing a hood), oh fuck, that’s the FIRST thing I wanna do to him. Of course, I’m a good guy, and I won’t do it. At least not in the first session. But yeah… I like fucking with guys. Teasing is a lot of fun, especially when the guy is tied up and helpless. Everyone need a punishment to serve as incentive.

And as a bottom? My goal is to make the top happy, with as few limits as possible. And I like it when the Service is painful and hard ‘cause that’s the way I can prove my love and obedience for the top. I mean, if it’s easy, what’s the point? It’s just a fun casual scene. But if I’m reduced to tears… red and sore for the next few days, you can believe I’ll remember that scene for a long time. And I’ll be coming back for more.

Pain, humiliation, service, toys, leather, bondage, smells, forced exercise, anal, oral, blood, sensory deprivation, orders, uniforms, exhibitionism, mud/gunge, role playing, photos, stories, gags, fistmitts, sweat, mummification, wrestling, cigars, raunch, cuddling. It’s all good.

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Nice post, genuinely arousing:-)

Thanks - it's something I wanted to say for some time now.

Good points all, and I agree with you (happened to find you through a mutual friend, BTW) on all the above.

I like the piece about the Nice Top (there almost should be a ® after that or something). I'd always thought of myself, when topping, as a beginner's top, because I won't beat your balls to within an inch of their life because you forget to call me Sir or something.

Lately, having been really exploring my bottom side, I'm finding more and more that I like a top who'll push the buttons for me...force me into breaking my prior limits and seeing just how far I really can push myself to submit to their will.

All in all...yeah, nice and hot combo of stuff there, albeit with a few things not of my interest, and a few others that're missing. *evil grin*

I was never good at accessorizing, so all the toys, chains and equipment leave me cold. But I really get off on someone else's discomfort, like pinning them down, a little arm-twisting. Ball tugging and using what's at hand- like tying his boots to his balls. Or testing his gag reflex, slowly. There's nothing like the way a butt opens up while being slapped. And when he begs for me to cum in his mouth, shoot on his face and chest instead.

My mind wanders to an experience at an all night SF fuck club. A dude in chains, wearing boots, and a brand new pair of levis, just begging to be broken in.

Me and a buddy decide to see how far away we can stand and still mark our territory.

As soon as the first drops hit, the dude yells out: "Oh, please! It'll ruin my jeans!"

Duke: lookin' for love in all the wrong places...

damn very well put man -- that pic caught my eye!

You and I have similar feelings.

Personally I love being the one IN the sling or bound. I love giving up control because, well, in real life I can't.

So this past weekend in Denver, I had a chance to be the one binding someone else and it was a very nice change. BUT... I also learned how to put my own desires into it as well.

Worked really well.

Oh and you wrote: Even though I’m a Nice Top, I’ve got a real sadistic streak inside me. If a sub tells me something mild that he doesn’t like (for example, being tickled, or wearing a hood), oh fuck, that’s the FIRST thing I wanna do to him.

Honestly, most of the time when they dislike something, I do believe it isn't a show stopper. A lot of times it is something that there IS interest in, they just aren't sure.

When I tell someone my limits, I'm always clear about what I *REALLY* despise and I will classify it as an instant safeword trigger. But otherwise, I'll leave it open to interpretation.

I admit, I suspect I'd be good at some humiliation, as I can talk a mean game, but I'm too nice to put many through it. *sigh* I'm a wimp dom. :P

Ah, wish I would have met you while you were in Denver! It's a great city, and I'm happy to be here.

Once I made a list "hard limits", things I hate that can be used as punishment, things I dislike but once I'm aroused I kind of like in a weird way, and "rewards".... things I love. Heh, it's fun to give the top that much power over me, but also terrifying! Take care

I'll be back to Denver. :) I so badly need to hit the leather shop there. ;)

It is scary to give someone else control over you. And there's a list of things that I'll let person A do, but no way in hell person B can.

It's one reason I'll never be a pup or a slave. You lose that little bit that allows you to resist without punishment. And I can't give that up...

And I like it when the Service is painful and hard ‘cause that’s the way I can prove my love and obedience for the top.

Damn... can I cum over?

What you shared caused a huge grin on my face!

It is funny how people want to analyze fetishes to death - perhaps the over-analyzing is a fetish for some folks. =;) Sometimes it's simply about the way we are wired. You are right: it's all good.

~ pug

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