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I get very annoyed at people I know who make Big Official Pronouncements that they are/aren’t going to do something. I had friends in college who would pompously tell everyone, “I won’t be coming to the bar anymore.


“For a long time,” they’d add. “So if you’re at the bar, don’t look for me.


“Because I won’t be there.”


Of course, these are the same guys that you’d see drinking three weeks later. And I learned it wasn’t worth trying to remind them of their Big Statement, because they’d either forgotten their vow, or they would deny make such a claim in the first place.


Fast forward to the new millennium. I don’t understand the LiveJournal bears who periodically post that they’re simplifying their life, cleaning out their closet, and so they are paring down the number of friends that they have. They scour their LiveJournal list, deciding like little emperors who is important enough to make the final cut.


“Post here if you think you still deserve to be my friend,” reads the inevitable post. “Because I only want certain people to read to read what I had for breakfast, or how much I love the recent Dreamgirls movie.”


Lemme tell ya something. If you really want to send out a private message to your six friends, here’s a new invention: it’s called *email*. There’s a special box there called “cc”, and you can add and subtract people to your heart’s delight, choosing who is allowed to read your private innermost thoughts.

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i can only assume that this is somehow related to me and my recent post.

interestingly enough, i did it because there were about a dozen people on my friends list who i'd taken off my "read regularly" filter. that filter was created when i was traveling and working like mad and still trying to keep up with close friends. over the course of several years i'd shuffled people to that filter either because they were posting too much or about things that weren't of interest to me or other personal reasons but i didn't want to offend them by "de-friending". it was beginning to feel really disingenuous to have them on my friends list and never read their posts. I can only assume that there are people who have likewise friended me for a variety of reasons and would be just as glad to jettison me. hell, it's not like my LJ is all that interesting.

so, i thought it would be a good and honest thing for me to just say, "i'm cleaning house" and let it go at that. i was right, not a single person I dropped seemed to even notice and that's all fine with me.

for me it wasn't an ego trip, it was just wanting to be honest, ya know?

Hi guy! Nope - this wasn't in reference to you.

Instead, what got me upset was a gay bear guy who told me a *month* ago at a Christmas party, "Hey! Add me to your LiveJournal friends!" only to axe me today.

Guess the guy is having a change of heart, or a midlife crisis, or a bad day. Maybe his new year's resolution is to be an asshole - I don't know.

cool. glad to hear it. seems there's been a rash of this sorta thing. must be the new years thing.

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