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I get very annoyed at people I know who make Big Official Pronouncements that they are/aren’t going to do something. I had friends in college who would pompously tell everyone, “I won’t be coming to the bar anymore.


“For a long time,” they’d add. “So if you’re at the bar, don’t look for me.


“Because I won’t be there.”


Of course, these are the same guys that you’d see drinking three weeks later. And I learned it wasn’t worth trying to remind them of their Big Statement, because they’d either forgotten their vow, or they would deny make such a claim in the first place.


Fast forward to the new millennium. I don’t understand the LiveJournal bears who periodically post that they’re simplifying their life, cleaning out their closet, and so they are paring down the number of friends that they have. They scour their LiveJournal list, deciding like little emperors who is important enough to make the final cut.


“Post here if you think you still deserve to be my friend,” reads the inevitable post. “Because I only want certain people to read to read what I had for breakfast, or how much I love the recent Dreamgirls movie.”


Lemme tell ya something. If you really want to send out a private message to your six friends, here’s a new invention: it’s called *email*. There’s a special box there called “cc”, and you can add and subtract people to your heart’s delight, choosing who is allowed to read your private innermost thoughts.

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Yeah, I've been singled out for the odd purge every once and awhile. One person even requested that I defriend them, as they were dumping me. Stubborness at such a crass request forces me to keep reading his journal, and occassionally commenting (just to annoy him). This is a public arena if you choose it to be, otherwise go private.

It calls to mind the people who demand certain action of you in real life... if you don't do,say, act a certain way... we can't be friends. Honestly, put your ego in the back seat. Who elected the "friend police" to ratify who, how, what a friend is? I can still be your friend if I haven't spoken to you in the last year. Sheesh! Friendship is supposed to be forever. I admit that you can drift in and out of closeness with the passing of time, but you don't have to make any kind of declaration that the friendship is now over.

You never know... you might need friend one day.

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