What was your first "kink" experience?
I've been kinky ever since I could remember. To me, kissing a boy and giving him an enema were both equally transgressive activities. So... in for a penny, in for a pound. As long as I was going to hell, I might as well make the ride worthwhile. So I'm sorry I can't remember my first kink experience.
However, here's a story I love: when I was 23 (in 1992), I went to my first gay bar. It was a leather bar, and even newly out of the closet, I figured out that was what got me excited. I sat in my car for fifteen minutes outside the bar before I got the courage to enter the bar.
I bought a beer at the bar, not looking at anyone. Then, I found a place by the wall to lean against, and drank my beer way too fast from nervousness. Finally, I casually tried to look around the room at the hot leathermen. Luckily, standing at the bar next to me was a really amazing grey-haired older bear. He was drinking a Corona, just like I was. I took this as a sign.
"Hi, Sir!" I said... thinking it was a good place to start. "May i buy You another beer?"
He looked at me, and quietly said, "Sorry, I don't drink."
I looked at the beer in his hand. I thought he was being a dick, and I stammered, "Um, well, i mean... you're holding a... um."
He looked me in the eye, "It's not beer.
I got so nervous that I turned around and left the bar right then. To this day, I wish I would have had the guts to say, "Hello Sir... can i *make* You another beer?"