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One more post before I'm locked away...

So, two hours before I get on an airplane to work in San Jose for a month, my boss called on the phone to tell me I'm laid off. The news wasn't surprising - the project has been badly funded for the last year. And last week my boss said cryptically that several employees should come into work this morning before flying out. Still, it was one of the humiliating experiences of my career.

I am still going to San Jose, though possibly for only 3 weeks, not 5. Lockheed Martin will pay my salary possibly through August 1, and all benefits transfer if I find a job with another business unit as a coder. So, while I am San Jose, I will go house hunting and check out the job market.

In the last month, I have lost my 14 year relationship, my house, and my job. I think I need to go crawl in a cage for a while and think.

You have to shake loose the old to make room for the new. Best to you in your new adventures!

The last two years of my relationship have been incredibly stagnant. People told me that I should break up and start living the life I want. However, I didn't expected so much to happen so fast. The speed is a little terrifying.

I am sorry for your losses; I can very much relate. Sounds like you are accepting and acceptance is the key.

KNow that you are not alone and I applaud you for posting about these things.

You can relate? Man, we should get together sometime and share a beer and war stories.

What I said earlier this morning...

And I still don't think you've quite lost the house yet, sweetie.

I can't keep up a 7 bedroom 5 bath house by myself. Hmm... maybe if I got a slave of my own!

I am so sorry.. But as my mom says which I HATE.

When a door closes a window opens!



... and then you can jump out the window, plummeting to your death (just kidding)

Wow...that sucks.

But wait...lost the house? Huh?

E-mail me or call me.

Well, just that I gotta sell the thing in a down market. Lockheed Martin has no jobs in Denver, and I will probably have to relocate. And I loved that house.

Wow. Hugs, man. Let us know if there's something we can do to help.

Hey there.

First off, it was great meeting you this weekend.

Second, my thought is that your next month in the slave headspace is probably perfectly timed. While it's not a headspace I personally get into, it's similar to other things in my life, and when everything goes to hell, having a whole month to focus on that particular aspect of your psyche will probably be a deeply...healing (not the right word, but close) experience.

Let me know if you get up to SF on your weekends out of the cage.


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I wouldn't be comfortable staying in that house for long... Michael is the one who made it look awesome. It's his creation - I just pay for it.

The Big 3 - The Major Ones

Wow! Those are the biggest 3 things in life and you are changng all of them. Take it one step at a time and work on the job first. The rest will follow.

I'm so very sorry about the layoff. It is no fun to be laid off but remember it is not you - it is just a business decision.

I used to work for Lockheed Martin but they were laying so many people off and rehiring and laying off that I went to work for their credit union for the stability and am still here 15 years later.

Remember too you do have so new local friends in the San Jose area too like myself.

Wishing you the very best of luck in getting a new great job.

Look at all the oportunitites this opens up.

think as a new begining

I am here to chat anytime you need. I know what these kinds of life changes can do to your head. It isn't pretty, but life rarely is.

I pray you are able to overcome all of these setbacks and emerge a stronger, better person. Again, I will be waiting here for your return to the blogosphere.

I remember the feeling of being laid off, it was very much a seven stages of acceptance thing. Made me feel worthless, unwanted and crap for a while. Hope you bounce back as quickly as I did. I recommend a hug from a friend and a couple of beers.

Edited at 2008-05-27 05:31 pm (UTC)

Maybe the universe is trying to tell you it's time to shed the old suit and put on a new wardrobe?

Yes, your boss has shitty timing for doing that two hours before you were to board a plane, but you're still heading to San Jose. And your salary is still covered for a while (which essentially means a paid vacation!), and you have an opportunity to make a fresh start in a new part of the country.

I'd trade you places in a heartbeat, mister!

I know it doesn't feel good now, but, given some time, I think you'll see just how lucky this series of events has made you.


WHAT COLOR IS YOUR PARACHUTE, baby. Best book ever written.

Oh GODS!!!! You poor thing. Boy you need a vacation. Heres wishing you the best of fortune.