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10 Ways to Be a Bad Master
Are you feeling *really* sadistic? Why crush a man’s testicles when you can crush his heart? Here are 10 fun things to do to a new or prospective slave.

1. Accuse them, “You’re only in it for the SEX!!!!”

First of all, make this judgment without meeting the slave at all. Ignore anything they’ve written or said to the contrary. Face it, they can’t prove you wrong, and they are just like every other slave you’ve ever met. Even after receiving several thoughtful replies, bring out the next accusation, “You just want to be a slave so you can stop thinking!!!’

2. Talk constantly about other slaves You’ve had in the past

Compare the new slave unfavorable at all opportunities. The *last* slave had no problem following protocol, he used to be able to withstand amazing amount of pain in scenes that were hotter than any sex the new slave could provide. Forget that there is a REASON that the old slave is an “ex”. Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

3. Create a trial period that is completely unlike what things will be like in the future

By all means, in your profile: lie, lie, lie. Promise things that will never happen, misrepresent yourself. The idea of a trial is to make things as hard as possible for the slave, not to provide a mutual opportunity to judge a fitting relationship. This is all about You “winning”.

4. Tell them you won’t have sex with them … and then fuck them anyway

Create a high-minded rationale that slavery is all about service and that You are above such temptations of the flesh. Insist on chastity (for them) as training to focus their mind. Turn natural sexual attraction into a problem and a big deal. Then, in a moment of weakness, fuck them as clumsily and quickly as possible. Your model should be the feeling a virgin has on a drunk prom night… inflating sexual contact a mystical experience that should wait until the “right time”.

5. Fuck them only once, and then reject them

Leathersex is supposed to get better and better as the participants get to know each other. Screw that. Give the prospective slave one opportunity to rock your world, and if they don’t measure up, never call them again. After all, they’ve given you their body and mind, and once you’ve had that… what’s left? Chalk them up as “been there, done him” and move onto the next slave.

6. Complain that the slave is horny

The idea is to make the slave feel bad they have a sex drive. Call them a “slut” or a “whore”. The idea is to get them to think that sex is dirty and wrong. Then complain when they aren’t sexually responsive to You.

7. Play lots of mind games

Remember, a confused slave is an attentive slave. Never pass up an opportunity to contradict yourself. Be a hard-core demanding Master one second, and then instantly switch to an easy-going “dude” or “pal” who ignores any infraction. Everything should be difficult and designed to make the slave uneasy.

8. Negotiation is for pussies

Remember, this is all about *You* and Your desires. If the slave doesn’t instantly say the right things or fit Your exact mental image of a perfect slave, disregard them immediately. One strike and they’re out. Better yet... strike them out before they even get a chance. Dump them instantly based on physical appearance, typos, or anything ever said or entered in a user profile.

9. Be the strong silent type

Give cryptic one-word answers, and wait weeks before replying. This works both verbally in person as well as on the internet. Never explain, never clarify.

10. Go negative

Be as bitter and cynical as You can. The slave will enjoy living in constant fear and unease, like a scared mouse cowering in the corner. Nothing is more fun than being with Debbie Downer who sucks all the air out of the room. Talk about your problems at every opportunity.

And remember... have fun!

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You just described the leather room in Gay.com with bost lists.

An excellent treatise, and I hope you didn't experience too many of these. I'm keeping a copy of this for my records and referring to it often.

I don't which is more horrifying; the very idea that any slave, submissive, or potential should even possibly be subjected to this kind of game-playing, mind-fucking, abusive horror... or the stark knowledge that the Scene is full of these people and it goes on every day.

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You forgot about whipping up anxiety over who is practicing "real" SM and who the "fake" leathermen are!

You know, with very little rewording, this could be "how to be a bad slave." Either way, it is all too often a reality.

I'm already ahead of you! Please see the next post.

A caveat... I've been working on this cute list for over a month, so nothing should be construed as being related to any people I met over the last week at Inferno or Dark Odyssey. (Though I *was* a pretty bad slave!)

Edited at 2008-09-18 08:18 pm (UTC)

I guess this makes me a bad boss, too.

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i'm inventing new ones every day, Sir!

8, 9, & 10 are relevant to any role in any flavor of relationship. 8 definitely happens with both tops and bottoms.

Good thing you wrote these up. I'm headed to an event and I want to be sure I can do all 10!

Merci beaucoup M. Mud

I have encountered the tropes mentioned here and in your other post with some frequency. However, I haven't seen anyone articulate my observations and yet you did it very well. You often seem to imply that you are perhaps ignorant, merely learning or perhaps naive...but you are very insightful and these two streams of thought are prime examples thereof.

With your permission, boy, I'd like to site you and these lists at some time in the future. Regardless I'm archiving them for myself.

Hugs n pisses,

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