Step 1: Go to the list published today of the people who made financial contributions to Proposition 8. Pick five of them. Not a lot, just five.
Step 2: Go to the free online white pages and find the donor's name and address
Step 3: Write a letter. Mine is listed below. Please be polite but honest. Explain how the lack of gay rights in the US has affected your life
Step 4: Actually print out five copies of your letter, address five envelopes, and mail them
Step 5: See change happen. No, seriously. Change will happen. And not a pollyanna idea that the recipient of your letter will have an epiphany and suddenly become a gay rights supporter. The change will come from something else. Maybe you'll become more of an activist. Maybe someone will write an article about your letter when they receive it and it will start a discussion. Maybe you'll just feel good doing something tangible for gay rights instead of passively waiting for the courts to decide your fate for you.
I had a friend who was living in Birmingham, Alabama in the 1960s. I asked her what it was like to be at the heart of the black civil rights movement. She said she didn't know... she didn't think about it much. Now she had every right to be detatched: she was raising three kids and working hard. She was too busy to care, and I think her history is somewhat lessened for it. What a wasted opportunity.
I am writing this letter to you because of your support for Proposition 8. Please understand that I will never contact you again, nor would I ever threaten or harm you or your family.
However, your beliefs directly threaten and harm me and my family.
I was in a fourteen year relationship. That's a long time. By the way, how is *your* first marriage going? But even though we were deeply committed and loved each other dearly, we couldn't get married. That meant that if I was to die, my partner wouldn't be able to inherit my estate. To pay the huge gift taxes, he would probably have to sell the house he and I lived in.
Please read that last sentence again. Thanks to you and your vote on Proposition 8, widowers are kicked out of their homes.
There are other things too, like the fact that without marriage, gay people can't make medical decisions for their partner, share a pension, safely adopt children, or any other over one thousand federal protections that you have but that you don't want to share with gay people. But you don't care about any of that.
I realize you hate us. I understand that you think you need to legislate your personal religious bigotry through the government and the laws. I just wish you would leave us alone.
Why are you so concerned about gay people? Why do you care?
A gay man that you hate